Family, Kids, Love, Teenagers, Health, Anxiety, Life,  Teenage Drug Abuse and Addiction

A Rough Monday for this Momma

As I have been staying positive, motivated and excited with my new Wine Business keeping me preoccupied, I still have a teenage son who has been in jail going on 2 months now.

They “farmed” (this is what they call it) him out to another jail due to safety, however it does not allow visits.  I have not been able to see him since the beginning of March.  His birthday came and went, Easter came and went and still haven’t seen him.  They brought him back to Lawrence on Thursday due to his court dates this upcoming week. (today-Monday)  Although the Anxiety that I now struggle with because of the stress he’s cause our family, I managed to make it to court to show him that I love him and that I haven’t given up on him.  To see your child shackled as he walks into the courtroom is just another picture in my mind that I will never be able to forget along with the sounds the shackles make when he walks to his seat.  They just give me these unfathomable chills.

I could sit here all day staring at him admiring everything good about him and wishing I could just wrap my arms around him.  But the moment we gain eye contact I completely lose myself control and the tears begin to pour down my cheeks.  He glances over and we gain eye contact again and he gives me a thumbs-up trying to cheer me up and let me know he’s ok.

They call him up to the stand, his lazy a$$ “court appointed” attorney stands up with him.  Jeffrey has been in jail waiting for an evaluation (which is his attorney’s responsibility to schedule-per the Judge).  Friday, the day after he arrived back in Lawrence, they take Jeffrey to court (this was unexpected) and the Judge asks “Son, do you know why you’re here?”  Jeffrey responded “No”, the Judge says “neither do I”.  Jeffrey took this opportunity to mention to him that he has been awaiting an evaluation that has yet to take place and asked the Judge how he can get this scheduled.  The Judge tells him his attorney is responsible for scheduling it and said he would personally contact his attorney himself.

As most of you know Jeffrey suffers from a mood disorder and ADHD and since he has been in jail, he has not had any medications.  For those of you that don’t know much about this, these medications once you begin taking them take a little while to even out the chemical imbalance within and can be very scary if you immediately  stop taking them……which is what happened to Jeffrey.

So, once at the stand, his attorney basically told the Judge that he called a local place that Jeffrey has been for treatment in the past and tells the Judge they refused to work with Jeffrey.  Little does the attorney know, that place of business is no longer in business.  We received a letter notifying us of their closure months ago.  They have recently re-opened under a different name but have closed all previous records.  I called them to find out more and why they wouldn’t see Jeffrey and I was told they never received a call and would be more than happy to work with Jeffrey.

There is another facility that the attorney claims he called and was told they wouldn’t work with Jeffrey either, so I also called them and was basically told the same thing, they never received a call in reference to that name (Jeffrey)!  This attorney has basically lied straight to the Judge and has pro-longed Jeffrey getting the treatment he so desperately needs.

You know how they say a parent will do a better investigation than the FBI when it comes to their kids……..this is very true and I mean no disrespect when I say this.  We did this in California when we were desperately searching for help, we still do it and I just did a little more digging today….

So, I emailed the Judge today with all of the details, names, phone numbers, etc. of who I spoke with that will prove this attorney did not do as he said and meanwhile, my son is still not getting the treatment he needs.  I also requested he be released temporarily for the appointment that I did schedule for him and if they couldn’t get him there then I would.  This is beyond ridiculous.  He is not a threat to anyone and he is and has been there waiting to be evaluated for treatment.

They refused to release him ONLY because every 3 1/2 weeks-4 weeks he is getting in trouble again.  How in the world do they NOT see the pattern?!!  He suffers from bi-polar-1 and has manic-high (hypo-mania) episodes every 3-4 weeks almost like clockwork.  One day he will be extremely happy, motivated, busy and getting things accomplished but not able to sleep well.  The next day he’s experiencing the low side of the episode tired, feeling down, depressed will isolate himself and by the next day he is self medicating which never fails him to end up in trouble one way or another.  It’s this never ending cycle and will always be this way until he can get a good doctor and the right medication to keep him stable.  This has been an ongoing struggle and it breaks my heart knowing that people see him as this bad person but that’s not him……he’s a good person, has a big heart, he’s kind, sensitive and loving.  He just needs the right help that we cannot seem to find.

I'm a Forty year old mom of 3. Ages 25, 18 & 5......AND, no...that wasn't a typo! I am married to the most amazing man on this earth and consider myself quite the lucky gal! I dislike the cold weather yet we live in the Midwest, I prefer the hot humid triple degree weather in the summer. My favorite things to do aside from spending time laughing with my family is mostly summer activities; stand up paddle boarding, fishing, attempting crafty projects, sewing and new adventures. We have 1 dog & 2 cats and yep, we're a little nuts!!

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  • Connie Chambers

    Michelle, we have strangely similar lives, lol. Im extremely terrified of bugs (to the point of panic attacks with spiders!) however, placing a slimy grubworm on a hook doesnt phase me…and altho i dont have a child with bipolar/ADHD issues, I have been in ur place also with the child in jail/prison, the court appointed attorney, etc…Im praying for you and if you need to talk, pm me, were fb friends. We actually dont live too far from each other. Connie Chambers,

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