Family, Kids, Love, Teenagers, Health, Anxiety, Life

All About My Family and How I Got Here……

My husband is the most amazing person and when I say this it comes from deep in my heart.  I feel like everyone in this world needs to meet him to understand why I say this.  He has made me a better person in life and how I look at life.  He gives everyone the benefit of the doubt, he will help anyone that needs it, he is extremely compassionate…..especially with animals.  He is a HARD A$$ Worker and extremely driven.  He takes care of his family with everything part of his being.  We are so very blessed to have this man to call ours!  Plus he’s super handsome and sexy!  😉

My daughter….my Best Friend……what can I say about this amazing person who made me a better person, made me want more for her and myself.  I got pregnant at the tender age of 14, gave birth at age 15 and was absolutely clueless about pretty much everything.  I had an amazing Mom and Dad that helped me become less clueless.  I’ve worked since I was old enough (15) and sometimes I had a second and third job just to make our ends meet.  I’m not one to take the easy way out, I knew I had to prove to that little girl how much I loved her and I was going to be there and take care of her.  By the age of 21 I had a little boy looking up to me and I also needed him to see how much I loved them and wanted to take the very best care of them that I could.  (all the while going through a divorce and having no-one to depend/fall-back on)  We made it work, it was tough but it made me who I am today.

In 2005/2006 I met my amazing husband.  I wonder every-single day how in the world or what in the world I did to deserve such an amazing person in my life…..and not only my live, my children’s life.  He was a bachelor, living alone, never been married, no children, etc. but seemed to have no reservations about bringing all of us into his life and willing to take these 2 children on as his own.  He took my kids on as his own so much so that when out in public or around strangers, everyone assumed they were his by the way they all bonded.

When Jeffrey was younger, he would ALWAYS put on his Christmas list that he wanted a brother……..this.was.EVERY.SINGLE.year!  In 2011, Felicia went off to College on a Cheer Scholarship (30 minutes away).  She came home for a 3 day weekend in September, so we decided to break the news.  My tummy was already beginning to get a little bigger and I was definitely without energy I and the family was used to me having…shoot, I still think that energy is gone…..it just NEVER came back!  Along with a few other things, but heck….after 3 kids, what can I expect?!

We sat both of them down and asked Jeffrey what was the one thing he would ALWAYS put on his Christmas list?  They both looked at us with this questionable expression……not the one where they are thinking…..hmmm……what do I put on my list?  It was one that seemed to be almost shock, maybe afraid to give in thinking we were joking and they didn’t want to be disappointed type of a look.  So once we confirmed and showed proof, there was excitement.  In May 2012 our little Maxwell Oliver arrived with these great big brown eyes, Daddy’s nose and my dimple in his chin. Both Daddy and Fee were in the room during the delivery.  Now that I think about it, this just might be the reason behind her connection with Maxwell…..they have this connection/bond that is not easy to explain, but totally adorable.  (Both of my boys have the dimple, sadly, Fee does not….but she’s got looks to die for….absolutely gorgeous)!

Funny thing is, today, now that our daughter is 25 and on her own, Daddy is even more protective of her than I am at times.  Of course, I take care of her and do special “MOM” things for her, such as little random surprises that I’ll sneak in her apartment or drop by her office or taking care of her when she’s sick or making sure my “grand-cats” are well taken care of while she’s sick.  I’ll sneak in a special treat/toy for them….I think they like me….sometimes.  😉

We call her Fee instead of Felicia, it’s been her nickname since I can remember.  Fee and I have a relationship like no one could begin to understand.  HELL!  We basically grew up together!  We have inside jokes like you wouldn’t believe and when we are out and about and see something, one of us will slyly comment and we’re both laying on the ground, tears in our eyes from laughing so hard…..AND this is while being sober…not one drink!  After a glass of wine or a Margarita, let’s just say We’re Pretty Entertaining!  (at least we think so!)  My favorite thing to do is laugh and after spending some time with my Fee, I don’t need to work out, my abs are already sore from all the laughing!

Both Jeffrey (19) and Maxwell (5) are “Momma’s Boys”.   Jeffrey suffers from a Mood Disorder and ADHD, he is off and on which explains the troubles we have been and still are struggling with.  He’s a wonderful person, has a great big heart and loves his family but the mood disorder and ADHD is stronger than what he can control at times.

Maxwell now that he’s (5) is a “Momma’s Boy” when he’s sleepy or not feeling well.  When he’s full of energy, he all Daddy’s Boy!  Maxwell is ALL BOY!  He loves EVERYTHING there is to love about the outdoors!  He has no fear and will try anything without hesitation.  My mission is to show him everything I can in this world that our budget can handle.  😉

My Absolute Favorite:  ALL 3 of my kids still call me “MOMMA”.  This melts my heart. ♥

 

 

 

I'm a Forty year old mom of 3. Ages 25, 18 & 5......AND, no...that wasn't a typo! I am married to the most amazing man on this earth and consider myself quite the lucky gal! I dislike the cold weather yet we live in the Midwest, I prefer the hot humid triple degree weather in the summer. My favorite things to do aside from spending time laughing with my family is mostly summer activities; stand up paddle boarding, fishing, attempting crafty projects, sewing and new adventures. We have 1 dog & 2 cats and yep, we're a little nuts!!

2 Comments

  • Joan Benson

    This was a beautiful tribute to “my boy,” Michelle. I’m so happy that you have each other to lean on, and that all the stresses of these difficulties haven’t torn you apart. <3 Mom B

  • Mirta Flores

    I have a son that suffers from Bipolar 1- so I know exactly what you’re going through! How I haven’t hurt anyone is beyond me! But some days are just better than others so all we can do is take it one day at a time! Xoxo

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